I grieve the ignorance I had before 2016 about the depth of racism and misogyny in those around me.
I grieve feeling secure in the future.
I grieve the days when I could solve their problems when my children were young.
Your turn.
It’s so natural for me to normalize and validate grief, including non-death losses, for others. Then I deny, downplay, and hide from my own. Let’s face our grief together and sit with it bravely. I’ll share mine in a comment.
#grief
#grieving
I have not finished the book yet, so maybe John addresses this, but as I’m reading, I’m wondering if his OCD and fear of germs/bacteria was a problem while researching for the book? I could imagine it being triggering, although immersion can be therapeutic.
I really can’t relate, except maybe during Covid lockdown. Then I had the privilege to FaceTime and Zoom with friends and loved ones.
“I think the only way to meet the end is with curiosity. Not fear. not regret. Just a question- what now?” Alan Rickman
#deathsky
#deathdoula
That’s why I don’t think you should forget. You can use that knowledge to build healthy boundaries; that may mean going no contact. I recommend Desmond Tutu’s book about forgiveness. I’m still a work in progress.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself so thank you aren’t stuck carrying stagnant negativity. I believe in forgiveness, but not necessarily forgetting.
“Your life is an occasion, rise to it.“
—Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Imporium
Grief transcends all time and space. Grief is seeing your loved one’s favorite coffee cup in the cupboard. It’s in passing their favorite restaurant. It fills the empty chair. It starts as a a cacophony and settles into an echo.
#grief
#loss
#deathsky
Such a great answer that emphasizes the need for planning and having end of life conversations with those close to us.
Thanatophobia, the fear of death, can involve fear of the process (pain), fear of the afterlife (or lack there of), fear of being forgotten, fear that life is meaningless, but if I’m being honest mine is rooted in FOMO.
You?
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Thank you for the gift of 25 hours of hope.
Damn it, they only ask me to identify bikes or buses.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#grief
People often tell me that their grief makes other people uncomfortable. So they avoid social interaction. Isolation is the worst thing for a grieving human. Let’s all try to be the friend who can be comfortable sitting in the presence of someone’s grief. Our job is to care, not to cure.
I love that my inner voice switches to be @johngreensbluesky.bsky.social ‘s voice while I’m reading #everythingistuberculosis
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Great article with very attainable suggestions. Thanks for sharing.
I have a 94 year old client who says she just wants to be helpful every day. Knowing this I always ask her advice or perspective on something and be sure to thank her for her help. It really is helpful, she’s learned a lot in her life!
An informal life-review through conversation can provide perspective for how to live out the last chapters of one’s life story. We only die once, but we live everyday up until then.
Through these conversations often internalized beliefs, or even fears will emerge.
I find it helpful to discuss with people about their experiences and understandings of death throughout their life. Talking about the losses they’ve lived through and funerals they attended can open the door to thinking about their own mortality.
There is no “right” way to die, hold a funeral, or grieve. When we engage in conversations about death we learn from each other, expand our ideas and understanding, and create a sacred space at the threshold between life and death.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Death Doula and thanatologist. I love to discuss death, dying, and grief.
Death will not be the great equalizer until all bodies are equally valued in life.
Here’s a great podcast episode with Dr. Kami Fletcher.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
Thank you kindly.
It's official: The lunatics are now running the asylum.
I love her! 🥰
Ash Wednesday: the day where people walk around with a memento mori on their foreheads.
#deathsky
#deathpositive
#mementomori
#ashwednesday
And Dave Matthew’s wrote, “Grave digger, when you dig my grave, can you make it shallow so that I can feel the rain?”
