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Belief from authority is one of the most powerful exacebators of success

the ideas confidence and aptitude need to be untethered

genuinely blows that en masse quiet women are most often seen as incapable & unconfident and quiet men are seen as regulated & put together

mostly, love is inheritance and projection

things like war, -isms and sa - they strip pf physical dignity and infrastructure; heartbreak is of a differing ilk, it is personal

“pretending only delays clarity” - facebook mystic

it is depraved cruelty to make someone fall in love with you and then leave without a hint of notice

there is so much grief with the parts of you that get forgotten

there is so much sadness with the parts of you that are not known

developmental stages in adults

performative people can sometimes become so accustomed to their performance that they’re unable to negotiate between authentic self and projection

wild glory hunting stems from deep deficit of childhood approval

insecure people will be seduced by the loud egos of the mega-insecure

the more secure people are, the more authentic they are

the more insecure people are, the more performative they are

incompetence in adults is the biggest anti aphrodisiac

“the need to be needed” also

friendship must have a component of fun - or its colleagueship or connection austerity mindset

caregiving relies on one parties outperformance on subjects internal safety

fun relies in internal safety; fun friendship relies on comparable metrics of internal safety

bad bunny is brave. its important to recognize this when people demonstrate nobility

one of the worst things about the disturbing prevalence of cancer is the remarkable prevalence of the tangible prevention & how inaccessible this is

emotionally immature people will have trouble decentering themselves in relationships, & possibly the world too

this is satirical to some degree - but if we talk about gatekeeping and hardship as wired into identity…

there are two types of people in hc: i watched my father beat my mother until he murdered her at thirteen then ran away to live on the breadline and barely made it out VS i have ADHD and my parents divorced when i was five

human relationships are proportionally more difficult the more psychologically underdeveloped you are

“I don’t know how to prioritise myself so when you make space for me to make decisions i am crippled with anxiety and this comes out w my sharp spikes. i dont know how to accept love - i was never given it as a child, it was conditional- so i cut you to keep my broken ego safe; the only way i know”

Women’s overfunctioning often occurs when a woman explains what’s upset her, a man is offended or defensive, and then a woman ends up appeasing the situation and his hurt - even though he was the one who caused psychological injury to her

if a man hits you & you take it, does that make you a people pleaser? in some ways - not because you inherently are one, but you have been moulded into a diminished role, in the same way you can be a securely attached person but date an extreme avoidant (peter pan) and you will devolve to anxious

Be the change you want to see in the world, yes, but the change you want to see yourself as well