Cluster B Abuse Support

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Sorry, no. You’re not important enough.

Confusion keeps you off balance. It distorts reality. It keeps you guessing.
Abusers / cluster B disordered predators, use gaslighting, deflection, projection, Darvo, Chronic lying, stonewalling, silence, and an ever-changing narrative, to keep you confused and in the chaos loop. It's how they live.

CPTSD is telling you a story right now about how you can't POSSIBLY handle what's on your plate. It's bullsh*t. Let CPTSD say what it's gonna say-- you focus on just the next teeny, tiny chunk of what you're doing.

Breathe, blink blink blink, & focus on what's in front of you.

This is why support groups can be so important. When and abuse victim talks to other abuse victims they often find relief in discovering other people who know that the "standard" advice doesn't always work.
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Likewise, those who offer help and support often fail to understand why the abuse victim just "doesn't seem to get it". They may become judgmental or impatient with the abuse victim, they may fail to understand that Cluster B disorders fall outside the scope of normal human behavior. 12/13

In this way, abuse victims often find that non-abuse victims are of little help or support. They just don't seem to understand. Over time they may begin to feel that nobody understands. 11/13

They may feel condemnation because they have not successfully implemented their advice or adhered to their model of the world. 10/13

When a person who is in a relationship with an IwCB reaches out to others for help, they commonly get this kind of misguided advice. When the advice doesn't work, they often feel hopeless and begin to isolate themselves from the advice-giver. 9/13

Treating an IwCB as though they have normal or average behavior is a bit like trying to extinguish a forest fire with a bucket of water - you are using the wrong tools for the job. 8/13

The trouble with this kind of advice is that it is applicable to people who fall in the normal range of human behavior. IwCB’s fall into the extremes of the behavioral spectrum - and thus do not conform to typical human response and behaviors. 7/13

“I've found that prayer really helps in this situation.”
“Maybe she just needs some space.”
“If you treat her like a queen she will treat you like a king.”
“If you listen to his needs and learn to communicate better - that is the key.” 6/13

Some examples of hopeful counter-productive advice:

“She'll probably just grow out of it - they all do.”
“He seems to have really turned things around lately. I know you guys are going to make it.”
“He's feeling a lot of stress at work. When things calm down I think it will get better.” 5/13

Because individuals with cluster B (IwCB) do not fit the mold of typical human behavior or thinking, the kind of "common sense" advice which is often given out can be counter-productive or dangerous. 4/13

However, if the response to a cry for help is misguided or untimely, the abuse victim may feel humiliated or confused and be discouraged from seeking help in the future. 3/13

When someone finds themselves in a situation where they are subjected to abuse, it is an instinctive reaction to reach out to others for help. If this help arrives on time and in an effective way, the abuse victim will feel encouraged to repeat the action the next time abuse occurs. 2/13

Feeling Isolated - It's common for people who have a relationship with a Cluster B to systematically isolate themselves from other external relationships. 🧵 #BPD #NPD #ASPD #HPD #AbuseSupport 1/13

We are a group of people who have banded together to offer support for people suffering from #ClusterB abuse. This includes abuse perpetuated by #ASPD, #HPD, #NPD, and #BPD.
If you’re in a relationship with, a friend of, or a family member of a iwCB (Individual with Cluster B), this page is for 🫵

My boyfriend revealed that he has anti social personality disorder. What do I do? Sorry I've never posted on Reddit before so I might mess up some things. Basically im 18 and hes 20. We've been dating for 8 months now and at the start one of the things that | loved about him was just how caring and like sweet he was. Just in general very attentive and really validated my feelings and felt for me. But like lately hes been acting weird and unsocial around me. He was being very unexpressive and stuff and it's not like him so I sat him down to talk about it and it turns out he has aspd and was masking up until very recently around me but now feels IG & Threads: @ask_

recently around me but now feels comfortable enough around me to "drop the social persona". I feel so cheated and lied to and I feel like everything in our relationship was a lie. My luck is just utter shit. I get cheated on and then right after get into a relationship with a man who doesn't even love me which is amazing of course I don't know where to start or what to do next. I feel like I can't just break up. We agreed to go on a break and be apart for a while but i truly need advice. Logically I know a break up is the end of this but I want to salvage this relationship so bad if thats even possible idk. I just feel very defeated honestly. Maybe someone like me just isn't meant for romantic love and I'll realize that later

There is no relationship to salvage. It was never real.

Unless you've lived it, I don't believe you can truly understand what it's like to have a mother with narcissistic personality disorder & borderline personality disorder. It's absolutely hell and so very isolating. I'm so very exhausted. I'm looking for others who understand the struggle.

Sometimes, a break to process everything emotionally is what is needed. 🫂

We’re sorry you know 🫂

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The goal is to realize that narcissistic abuse is/was impersonal. Rid yourself of personal implications of what happened. Meaning - “Why me, what did I do to deserve this, what does it say about me”.
🔻Nothing Personal About the Narcissist
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Congratulations! Enjoy that pizza! 🍕

Stare blankly & pretend you didn’t just confront them. Make things even more confusing by telling another lie, that’s worse than the first one, in an effort to explain their initial lie. My CPTSD is off the chain if we can’t even agree on something as basic as THE EARTH IS NOT FLAT.

People must understand that conscienceless narcissistic psychopaths engage in depravity offensive against ALL laws of humanity.

They can do anything to anyone including things your conscience-filled mind cannot even conceive of.

We’ve known from day 1. You’re accepted regardless. Hope it gets easier for you. 🫂

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Finally putting my masters degree in mental health science to work!

Speaking at women’s leadership conference in Paris, France. Topic is how psychological abuse impacts our careers. #neuroscience #trauma, #psychologicalabuse, #vawg, #narcissticabuse #mentalhealth