Life lately
19.12.2025 09:46
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Life lately
The way work is organised is unsustainable and traps us in precarity, perpetual anxiety, endless fatigue…
And we try to offset it with punctuated moments of leisure, time with family and friends & so on. Fact remains it colonises so much of our time to do things we care about
Anyway, I’ve not been completely useless. I can confidently say I’ll have a substantial amount of writing done before the year ends. But damn. At what cost.
I also wanna see people and hang out without the anxiety of knowing there’s something i need to submit, get done, organise, troubleshoot and shit. Oct-Dec were really hectic for me ngl — work wise
I barely touched my school work 😮💨😮💨😑
I’m in the colony bcz I wanted a change in scenery, because I wanna be productive and write. But I’m so tired and wanna sleep all the time. But that’s not productive. And it would only mean I don’t get to rest before I jump back into work again the following year
At my work, we only went on break in the second week of December and go back to working the first week of January. During this two/three week period off, I’m somehow supposed to consolidate and get done everything I’ve been putting off. I’m not sure about this.
I’m really worried about 2026. How am I gonna get shit done? I feel like time is not the luxury i have. And I’ve seen that when I overexert myself, I easily fall sick. And that’s more time taken off from doing ‘productive tasks’.
Digital misogyny is on the rise. Why do some men and boys get drawn into – and even seek out – extremist influencers and groups?
humanrights.ca/story/online...
Anyway, #Adolescence is a cautionary tale fam. I don’t know what should be done, but something must be done.
We’re seeing a creation of toxic misogynist men in front of our eyes
So fuckin scary esp with powerful men leading the movement Iyoh
With the overexposure and access because of the age of the internet, all one can do is try their best I guess - esp in raising good men. But my gawd, toxic incel heteropatriarchal culture has become so so pervasive esp with influential perps like El*n leading it
My gawd. You can do all you can as a parent, but still have no control over what your child gets exposed to, and let alone what your kids get involved in.
Anyway, Black scholarship matters, even when coming from up and coming Black intellectual elites who now pontificate about Black life with so much authority 😊
The litmus test to such concepts, and not that they’re not generative, is how they would land with people ko kasi… ko metseng, on the margins. How do you tell someone who’s battling material precarity that they’re dead men walking (philosophically ofcourse)
Back from my hiatus here and I’ve got thoughts.
There’s an unsettling way in which certain scholars wear concepts like ‘social death’ and ‘Black misery’ as some sort of badge of honour. This is while Black people everyday try to survive and dream of better futures and presents. It’s cultish.
Kaytranada weekend 😮💨
Happy new year everyone 😊
They cooked here unfortunately 😮💨😮💨😮💨😮💨
open.spotify.com/track/2plbrE...
attended a traditional wedding recently 😊😁
Recently been listening to Meiway who is a singer from the Ivory Coast. He is most notable for pioneering the Zoblazo style. A while back I created a playlist around him. Check it out.
open.spotify.com/playlist/34u...
Saying all of this to say that I’ve become comfortable with being alone and single, and I don’t want that. I have been in relationships, and while tough, they were very fulfilling. I want that again. Either this, or I’m just having a quarter life existential crisis
I feel out of sorts because I feel like I should know this, but I don’t. Most of my former lovers I met through the apps. Some were through other friends. Besides this, I have no experience. I also recognise that I might be scared to explore other options because of my anxieties
They’re toxic but often the only way to meet other queer people without having to navigate the violence of offline line. But I want to expand my horisons, and a big part of that is going beyond the apps. How did people navigate looking for romantic partners pre-apps?
As a queer man, I’m having such a tough time putting myself out there and hopefully cultivate something meaningful, romantically. I’m also at a space where I don’t feel good about my body — and ofcourse that comes with its own anxieties. A lot of this has been compounded by dating apps
My book is out! The Aesthetics of Belonging explores how urban aesthetics shape experiences and practices of political belonging:
uncpress.org/book/9781469...
I’m keen to connect with people who organise around important causes especially around #Africa and #SouthAfrica. I’m always happy to lend a hand even if it’s just reposting 😊
I love pop music and lots of music that’s not considered pop 😅. Also looking for my #KDrama folks. So please follow and add me to any group if you come across this post 😁
