@lifesavingdivorce
Divorce recovery leader for 20+ years in Christian churches. Yes, you can find joy again. For those who need a life-saving divorce to save their life & sanity. Author "The Life-Saving Divorce" http://amzn.to/3CCBsnr @GGBaskerville www.lifesavingdivorce.com
When your Christian friend doubts your abuse, it can hurt almost as deeply as the abuse itself. 💔
If a Christian friend has ever minimized, spiritualized, or dismissed what you've been through — you are not alone, and you are not required to prove your pain.
Latest blog post:
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Exposing the myth: 'The devil will exaggerate your mate's failures' is NOT a Bible verse. Let's dive into how it wrongly shifts blame onto the wounded spouse instead of addressing real betrayal.
#NotInTheBible #LifeSavingDivorce #BiblicalTruth
God can change anyone. But “God can” isn’t “God must.” God doesn't override another person's free will. Freedom didn’t mean less faith—it meant clearer faith. Read her story: lifesavingdivorce.com/one-womans-s...
She prayed. Submitted. Forgave repeated adultery. He left—and came back just enough to keep her hoping. That’s not weak faith. That’s trauma bonding + spiritual pressure. “God can heal” slowly became “God will, if I pray right.”
If you’re asking, “How can I save my marriage?” or “How can I get my husband back?” you are not foolish. You are loyal. You love God and want restoration. But what if you’re carrying a burden that was never yours to carry? 🧵
You're welcome. This is such an important topic for people who've risked so much to stay with someone who says they have change.
When an abusive spouse says “I’ve changed,” look for 3 things: full responsibility, real empathy, and consistency over time—not gifts or pressure.
Plus: how to respond to critics who push reconciliation.
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#lifesavingdivorce #divorcecoach #christiancounseling
Thank you so much. And I appreciate your standing for the dignity of singles in the faith.
Child Custody Basics Ep 9: Why Parenting Style Conflicts Can Cost Parents Custody
A clip from my interview with Sarah McDugal of @freedomnavigators
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#CustodyChallenges
EXPLAINER about Dr. James Dobson's article. Why was *this* article useful to Jeffrey Epstein? I don't think Dobson intended it to be used this way, but I think we can see why it was.
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Divorce isn’t a sign you’re weak. It may be a sign you’re strong.
Strong enough to tell the truth.
Strong enough to choose safety.
Strong enough to trust God with what comes next.
Divorce isn’t always a failure of faith. Sometimes it’s faith getting real.
lifesavingdivorce.com/faith/
Custody Evaluation Rules No One Explains (Part 3 of 3)
Child Custody Basics, EPISODE 7
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Feeling alone this Valentine's Day? Know that it's just a chapter, not your whole story. Finding your voice and courage can lead to incredible growth! You're not alone in this journey. 🌟 #ValentinesDay2026 #Courage #NewBeginnings
The #GreaterThan campaign sounds pro-child—but many people feel an unease they can’t name. This piece explains why: it ignores real harm, loss, and safety, and elevates ideology over children’s actual safety.
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Many people wonder why Epstein would recommend James Dobson to a victim. Epstein isn’t just suggesting inspirational reading. He’s actively redirecting a victim’s moral compass away from self-protection.
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This is uncomfortable. But it’s necessary.
What Family Court Actually Means By 'Good Parenting'
Child Custody Basics: Episode 4
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
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#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce
Child Custody Basics: Why the Court Evaluates the Safe Parent Too, Episode 2
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
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#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce #CustodyEvaluation
Child Custody Basics: Why the Court Evaluates the Safe Parent Too, Episode 1
Stay tuned, as I’ll be posting a new episode each day.
🎤 Watch the full video to learn more about navigating child custody: buff.ly/t1wJUQg
#CustodyChallenges #LifeSavingDivorce #CustodyEvaluation
The #GreaterThan campaign says “divorce hurts kids.” True—but incomplete. Children are often harmed most inside coercive, high-conflict, abusive homes long before divorce happens. Research matters.
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Christians should never minimize divorce. But we must not minimize abuse either. The question isn’t marriage vs. divorce—it’s safety vs. harm. Here’s what decades of research actually shows.
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Many survivors did see red flags—but who could have imagined how they’d escalate? Add church pressure, advice to “pray more,” fear of being seen as judgmental, and the myth that marriage fixes problems. It’s not your fault. 🎧 Audio summary included. lifesavingdivorce.com/abusive-marr...
DOJ Epstein files show Jeffrey Epstein directing a victim to read a James Dobson article. This post explains why that advice appealed to a predator—and why it still endangers victims today.
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What happens when a predator finds his playbook in evangelical counseling? DOJ files show Epstein recommending a James Dobson article to a victim. You need to read this.
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#ChurchToo #EpsteinFiles #LifeSavingDivorce
Cream-colored graphic with bold black text. Headline reads: “Kids don’t need parents to stay married. They need safety, stability, and at least one healthy adult.” Below, italic text says: “Harvard’s Center on the Developing Child says:” followed by a large quoted statement: “The single most common finding is that children who end up doing well have had at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive parent, caregiver, or other adult.” The source is cited at the bottom as the National Scientific Council on the Developing Child (2015), Working Paper 13, Harvard University.
Safety first. Kids don’t need parents to stay married. They need safety, stability, and at least one healthy adult.Harvard confirms what decades of research show: it’s chronic conflict and abuse—not divorce—that harms children.
Read more: lifesavingdivorce.com/wallerstein
DOJ Epstein files show Jeffrey Epstein directing a victim to read a James Dobson article. This post explains why that advice appealed to a predator—and why it still endangers victims today.
🔗 lifesavingdivorce.com/james-dobson... #epsteinfiles
Many people wonder why Epstein would recommend James Dobson to a victim. Epstein isn’t just suggesting inspirational reading. He’s actively redirecting a victim’s moral compass away from self-protection.
🔗 lifesavingdivorce.com/epstein-jame...
This is uncomfortable. But it’s necessary.
5/5
I wrote about why this matters—and why the church must reckon with it. There’s also a short audio summary in the post.
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#EpsteinFiles #ChurchToo #LifeSavingDivorce
4/5
This isn’t just “old Dobson.” Similar patterns still appear in Christian counseling today, including at Focus on the Family: abuse minimized, divorce moralized, safety sidelined.
3/5
Dobson’s article reframes the father's cruelty as a “handicap,” shifts responsibility off the perpetrator, and treats the victim’s anger as the real problem. Epstein didn’t twist this theology—he recognized it.
