Frau Cupcake 🏳️‍⚧️

Good enough reason to just stop going to hospital/uni Klinik for hormones.

I mean, beyond my already growing list of frustrations with this clinic…

This is an absolute must-watch if you want to be brought up to speed on the state of trans rights in the UK.

Ever wondered why two successive governments have promised to ban conversion practices and then reneged on those promises?

This video reveals all.

I’m switching to a gyn in town that provides hrt. I don’t need an Überweisung to see a Frauenarzt and she is a recommended provider by the other girlies in town.

I get the vibe that Uni Klinik is run by conservatives who begrudgingly prescribe hormones and only enough to not get sued for exclusion.

Why would I need a referral for HRT every 3 months?

I’m transgender, I’m going to keep being transgender, I don’t need my PCP to continue to approve my transness, I should not need a referral/transfer more than once (or at all, honestly).

Nothing but headaches since switching to Leipzig Uni Klinik

Cupcake, a tall gorgeous transgender woman stands on the wall near the Prague castle overlooking the city.

I went to Prague again yesterday 😻

Right now I’m using 1Password, but I’m strongly considering moving to self hosted vaultwarden after learning about it this week. I need to test and make sure that supports passkeys as seamlessly.

I heard Proton’s password manager also supports syncing passkeys. Also maybe KeyPassXC? Not sure yet.

When someone opts to hobble together LDAP/SAML instead of OIDC, we have absolutely fucked up.

It really makes me proud of what Mike, Ben, and crew delivered at Duo.

So I’m finally working for one of those customers that looks at the OIDC client config page of their IdP and say “wow, none of this means anything, OIDC is confusing to use.”

I feel like I’m seeing the industry from the opposite side, finally.

And industry wide, we are very bad at security ux.

A computer can never be held accountable. Therefore a computer must never make a management decision.

Always a good time these days to repost this slide from an IBM internal presentation in 1979.

My stomach just made the exact same sound as opening a big Dark Souls door

I never want to assume other people feel the same way / want closeness like we had in the past- things change, people and lives change.

But I always worry my “hey are we still…” conversations make others feel like I moved on / don’t feel strongly anymore.

I just don’t want to assume and be hurt.

(greeting in the train station)

Can I hug you? Would you like a kiss too?

Her: *confused face already coming in for a kiss*

Okay that’s a hell yes, thanks.

My girlfriend Addison came all the way to Leipzig to visit me the next couple of weeks ✨🔥💕

I haven’t gotten to see her for over a year. I’m so so happy 😻

(and maybe a little awkward)

Duration of the contract + 3mo
to a maximum of 4 years.

I’d love to not have to do this paperwork for 4 years. I think at that point, Emma would be a citizen and so then I’m just here for family unification (not because I work)

We kinda have to hopscotch our way through residence/citizenship.

New residence permit app submitted, I’m hype.
Unlimited employment contract, please yield longest residence permit 🩷🤞🍀

Come Monday I’ll be screaming-

“We go again!” filling out my “hello my name is” placard for the hundredth time.

(In fairness, attempt #2 I got sick, but attempts 1 and 3 are on them.

At a certain point, they will just stop getting paid by students because we’re all repeating courses they canceled out from us.

What if my Deutschschule cancelled my B1 Kurs, again, for a treat.

4th time is a charm I guess ✨✌️💀

(Looks down, discovering my own softness)

Niceeeee

Damn, women be so soft tho.

didn’t even go to the party last night but I still woke up hung over-

the We Pregamed too Hard story.

Shoutout to my metamours who also dated purple is my personality substitute, horse, bi-gender person at the same time-

Peace and therapy fam ✌️

Sometimes I meet someone who likes the color Purple like it’s their personality and I panic and get suspicious of them for awhile.

It’s funny how little quirks of exes set you off even years later.

The only things I want to own are the things people love to borrow (and then remind them of me)

Anti-Transgender Disinformation in the Age of Algorithmic Search Summaries Recently Google introduced a feature in its search engine that algorithmically creates summaries of one's search results. Though it could be viewed as a useful tool, researcher Anna Beers argues this ...

Hey all, here's a post at @ssrc.org about how anti-trans talking points are getting wrapped into Google's AI search results.

AI search not only cites anti-trans disinfo, but sanitizes it, making practices like conversion therapy sound legitimate and safe.

Thank you Apple, you have a direct signal of just how stressed I am today and where I am, so fuck it why not dawg.

You’re always so coherent and considerate /s

Oh man, the photos compilation of my kitty who passed was definitely what I needed to make me cry on the train home from class.

I don’t always act like someone who has a decade of kink experience.

Sometimes I act like a novice idiot who jumps into situations over her head and out of her comfort zone because “I’ll be fine, I just want to be game and maximize opportunities for intimacy (even when it’s a reckless scenario)”

Yeah Cupcake,

let’s take that extremely fragile, hard-won sense of security and safety you’re rebuilding in this relationship

and risk it all jumping in (unprepared) to a kink scene so when you ultimately do get triggered, it’s really droppy and bad on top of it all.