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Mine went through a beard and no mustache thing. Told him he looked like Brigham Young. 🤣😭

Psychic chickens may have an otherworldly concordance with the cosmos beyond all human comprehension but that doesn't mean they give great advice.

[David Attenborough holding me in a headlock] Stop calling tiger sharks sea raccoons

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I wish I didn't understand this. I'm not, now. But I spent a decade that way. Of course they checked my gallbladder, twice, (it's fine! No.) before they finally took it out. 😑

The Dream!

🤣 perfection

😂😂💜💜💜

COORDINATE, and bring a CPAP and a mouthpiece and make sure the kids are ok and I don't have to drive anybody to work at 7AM.

It won't always be that way, but some men do not understand that, for sure. (Or women, anybody not parenting)

and with that, I felt like I needed more contact because it felt like a sinking ship and I was always confused. But like, when there's secure attachment, NBD. I'm perfectly happy to go do my own things.

It's such a complex balance. Like, I'm old. If somebody wants me to stay over, I have to

Yeah.... That one's been so hard. I still do like periodic texts and stuff. I personally find that the more secure I am in a relationship, the more I'm fully autonomous and don't need as much. Like, I had one where he would keep me feeling unstable (there were undisclosed mental illnesses involved),

All Sherlock, no Watson

Ok, laughing, but yes. So, my exbf was, in part, ideal for me because he wasn't free more than once or so a week, and really, I'm not either. I LOVE really hanging out and being with somebody and stuff... But like, not every day and I don't want to LIVE with somebody 😂😂😂

She will be very sweet and not bite.

THIS TIME.

Exhausted Mom puts away good, gets ready for bed, remembers she should shower, decides the best thing about radio shows is that she shouldn't have to shower. RIP my co-host, I'll have on clean clothes and be fresh ENOUGH, yo.

It's true.

The hard thing with masking is that EVENTUALLY it gets too exhausting.

Sometimes earlier, with a burnout. Sometimes later, as we age and become more tired. I hit that early because of arthritis, but still masked some in public. Now? WYSIWYG, I guess. I miss those who don't like me, but I like me.

Ha!

I was a lovely thing in my 20's. Alas!

I'm still a lovely thing, I'm just a much, much larger lovely thing.

... Which is very sad, really, because I have found, working with brilliant academics, authors, teachers, and other "formerly gifted kids," that MOST of us (especially if musicians or theater kids🤣) fall someplace on the ADHD/ASD/AUDHD spectrum, and might not know until/if we have kids. 🤷‍♀️

I get it! I'm 50, and figured out the ASD part for me at the same time as searching for answers for my kid. I basically read that CAT-Q test and burst out laughing, because OH, LOOK, IT'S ME AS A KID.

irony: my exbf HAS a PhD in ed, but probably more hands on experience with the stigma of ASD

Exactly that. I've worked hard to say, "ok, kiddo, it's your brain, you're old enough to know if it's not working, ok?" And that's hard!

He responds better to DBT therapy than talk therapy, too, though he does both and uses his CBT therapist as kind of a sounding board.

When he'd meet interviewers, basically he'd temporarily BECOME them. So they adored him ... And couldn't figure out why he only showed autism markers at home 😂

I was like, yeah, I'm glad you like him, he just mirrored you exactly. It's an autism trait!

I'm only aware because after his uncle was diagnosed autistic, I looked up diagnostics, and then EVENTUALLY found the "camouflaged autistic traits" quotient, and, yeah.

And I bet you also were super high masking until you reached maybe late forties, because that happens so often. This kid Mimics!

This is basically my kid's exact diagnosis, and the prior misdiagnosis! And finding meds that help at all is SO HARD, because ADHD meds don't necessarily help ASD brains, and anxiety meds don't necessarily help at all, etc etc. We still haven't found the right concoction for him!

Bean asked to please begin #Caturday early because she needed extra scritches.

Just walked into the livingroom to tell the dog please not to bark unless it was an emergency because brother needs his sleep.

And he stopped making low "woof" sounds at the deer.

I constantly underestimate how much this dog understands.

Oh my goodness! How lovely and amazing!

Oh noooo, my cat does that!

Maybe doggie has a tummy ache or a pain? Even just a headache. Sometimes mama is the only fix.

The "HOW DARE YOU LOOK UPON ME?!" expression!